Love. What is love exactly? Most people in our lives think they have love all figured out. The definition of love says that it is an intense feeling of deep affection. This may be the love we feel for our spouse, friends, or family members. But what causes us to “love” or feel these strong feelings? How do we truly “love” someone?
When my husband and I started dating I knew right away that this was the man I was going to spend the rest of my life with. I felt a feeling that I had never felt before.Everything about him was everything I wanted. He was smart, funny, kind, caring, and was pretty easy on the eyes. Finding someone will all of those qualities that I liked hadn’t been any easy task in my past. I was excited to finally find someone who I knew was the “ONE”. It was very strong and I couldn’t ignore it. It wasn’t long before we both decided to get married, 2 months to be exact. Some people thought that we were crazy to get married that soon but we didn’t care. We knew it was destiny.
Shortly after we were married my husband deployed to Afghanistan. This was the single most difficult thing I think I have ever had to endure. 10 months of our first year of marriage was spent thousands of miles apart. We both woke up each day not knowing if that was going to be the last time we could say I love you to each other. The day he returned home was one of the best days of my life. All those feelings of “love” that I felt when I decided I would spend my life with him were multiplied times a thousand. My life was complete again. Little did I know I was wrong?
When you get married they never tell you how hard it really can be. Since our first year of marriage was put to the ultimate test and we spent it apart, once we were together for the second year we had some major struggles. It wasn’t until I moved back home to Missouri, alone, that I realized what I really needed in my life. I grew up in church and was baptized when I was 9 years old. I still remember that like it was yesterday, but I had strayed away from God in my teenage years and had never gotten back on the right path. I had lost the love in my heart that God provides us with.
I think as Christians we get caught up in the way our society is and we forget the amazing things Jesus does for us. He died for our sins, not his. He gave his life so that we could live eternal lives in Heaven, and he did it because that is what His father told him to do. He obeyed that command. Until you accept Jesus in your heart you truly cannot experience “love” in its entirety. It says in 1 John 4:19,
We love because he first loved us.
Without his love we wouldn’t know what love was. Once I had his love in my heart I knew I could fully love my husband again and I was able to put everything we had went through in the past. I am a stronger woman today because of the hardships I have endured. Our love is stronger than it has ever been. We recently were blessed with our first child and it has made us love even stronger than we did before. Having a child is the most rewarding thing there is in life.
It also says in 1 John 4:8,
Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.
Once you have accepted Christ as your redeemer, your salvation, and your father you will never experience the rich and vast love that can be given to you. It fills your heart and soul and it will never leave you. It makes everything else in your life better because you always have him on your side. All it takes to experience His love is for you to repent of your sins and ask him for forgiveness. You have to make the decision to change your life. It will be the best thing you will ever do.
We have come to know and believe the love God has for us. God is love. If you live in love, you live by the help of God and God lives in you. 1 John 4:16